Living It Out: Children and Parents
Key Truth: The gospel demands that children obey and honor parents, and that parents show restraint while training their children.
- The gospel elevates the position of children.
- The gospel demands that children obey and honor their parents. (Ephesians 6:1-3)
- Children owe their parents obedience.
- Children owe their parents honor.
- The gospel demands that parents show restraint while training their children. (Ephesians 6:4)
- Fathers are to show restraint with their children.
- Fathers are to train their children.
Ten ways to exasperate your child:
- Overprotect your child, and never give any freedom in decision making.
- Show favoritism in your family.
- Depreciate your child’s worth and remind him that his opinion does not matter.
- Set unrealistic goals for your child.
- Remain aloof and distant, never showing affection to your child or wife.
- Neglect your child’s needs.
- Allow your child to do as he pleases without any standards.
- Criticize your child frequently.
- Ignore your child.
- Use excessive discipline, and discipline your child when you are angry.
Ten ways to bless your child:
- Create a context of grace, love, support, respect and encouragement.
- Speak the truth in love in your home.
- Attend to the material and emotional needs of your child.
- As you teach, warn, hold accountable and discipline, do it all in the context of a life lived for Christ’s glory. Give your child a theology behind each action.
- Give your child experience caring for others.
- Refuse to put down, demean or lose your temper with your child.
- Reject jealousy and contempt from having any place in your home.
- Grant your child freedom within legitimate boundaries.
- Avoid unhealthy pressure, comparisons or expectations.
- Don’t live your life through your child.