Prison Epistles Lesson 13

Living It Out: Children and Parents

Key Truth: The gospel demands that children obey and honor parents, and that parents show restraint while training their children. 

Ephesians 6:1-4

  1. The gospel elevates the position of children.
  2. The gospel demands that children obey and honor their parents. (Ephesians 6:1-3)
    1. Children owe their parents obedience.
    2. Children owe their parents honor.
  3. The gospel demands that parents show restraint while training their children. (Ephesians 6:4)
    1. Fathers are to show restraint with their children.
    2. Fathers are to train their children.


Ten ways to exasperate your child:

  • Overprotect your child, and never give any freedom in decision making.
  • Show favoritism in your family.
  • Depreciate your child’s worth and remind him that his opinion does not matter.
  • Set unrealistic goals for your child.
  • Remain aloof and distant, never showing affection to your child or wife.
  • Neglect your child’s needs.
  • Allow your child to do as he pleases without any standards.
  • Criticize your child frequently.
  • Ignore your child.
  • Use excessive discipline, and discipline your child when you are angry.

Ten ways to bless your child:

  • Create a context of grace, love, support, respect and encouragement.
  • Speak the truth in love in your home.
  • Attend to the material and emotional needs of your child.
  • As you teach, warn, hold accountable and discipline, do it all in the context of a life lived for Christ’s glory. Give your child a theology behind each action.
  • Give your child experience caring for others.
  • Refuse to put down, demean or lose your temper with your child.
  • Reject jealousy and contempt from having any place in your home.
  • Grant your child freedom within legitimate boundaries.
  • Avoid unhealthy pressure, comparisons or expectations.
  • Don’t live your life through your child.